... About Self-love (Really!)

Hello you!

It's been a minute! I know I say this often, but I always mean it. I've missed you (to pieces, if I make so bold to say. Lol) and I apologize for not being here when I should. You see, 2021 has been excitingly busy for me as of now, and I wouldn't want to have it any other way. However, I've missed you pretty, and I hope I've not been relegated. Haha

On today's blabber of mine, lol, I'd love to share a little of what my thoughts were about the other day, and I do hope it doesn't take up a chunk of your time, really.

It's related to self-care, and I'll admit, I hadn't known how to talk about it or what topic to have made it about until I read a newsletter about self-care, and it got me in my thoughts.

The story is about a young girl whose lifelong dream has always been about becoming a journalist, and if possible, getting to sit side by side with Christiane Amanpour of CNN. A pretty valid dream, if you ask anyone. Anyone at all!

... But what happens? Hear me out, guys!!

She starts to intern for this popularly revered man, and two weeks, she'd done everything that was expected of her; she'd crammed all the necessary documents and had even read this man. She knew his life story by heart, even more than his son.

So one day, this man calls her into his office and says, "oh, pumpkin, I appreciate your hard work, but I have this to say to you. (brief pause, for effect), I don't think you've got what it takes to be a journalist. You'd, however, make a great assistant, but not a journalist."

I do not know what You'd have done, my dear friend, but this girl, 20 at the time, decided to let it weigh her down, even dropped out of school with claims that she needs to figure out her life.

I know I may have sounded judgemental towards the young girl in the previous paragraph. However, she's young, and things like this happen to the best of us even. I do not expect that she stiffens up, straightens her shoulders, keeps a leveled head, and still takes her lectures like she's not been trashed by a man she'd give anything to walk in his shoes.

It deals with one's morale. It's the kind of thing that crushes you, and sometimes, people who drown in that thought never make it back up.

Let's divert a little. Stay with me, please...

What if, just what if she'd responded and rebuked this man's disbelief in her, or even his audacity to think that his words are final. Of course, it won't do much. The man didn't need her to accept or refute it, and he also wouldn't gain or lose anything from whatever comeback she'd have for him. Then again, refusing it doesn't mean the thoughts won't seep in still when she's alone in her room at night.

Diverting a little further, I thought:

What if this man was protecting something?

What if he was scared of something?

What if, prior to what I'd stated, that he wouldn't gain or lose anything from having the girl, that he was actually scared of something and was projecting his insecurity(ies) on her?

Aha! That's where my self-love topic comes in!

People often take this issue of self-love too selfishly that they tend to hurt others. It's hard to only care for yourself when you're in the midst of people who care about you.

Regardless, everyone is trying to love themselves in the best ways they can. However, it doesn't make sense that you'd try to tear it off of someone else. Sometimes loving yourself means letting other people scratch those parts of your back that your fingers can't get to. You don't go burning bridges because you've crossed over.

Everyone's struggling. The world is tough enough; the least we can do is be kind in all forms, especially with our words. If you genuinely love yourself, it'd mean you're filled with love, that that's all you'd have to give. I'd think it's really that simple. Self-love means pampering yourself, protecting yourself from energies that don't agree with you, and surround yourself with positivity, light, and love.

It'd be somewhat contradictory that you'd dish out discouragement and vile things, especially to people who have not provoked you.

I'd leave with a quote because I really hoped to use this for one of my quotes sessions, but as it is, I felt this deserves to stand on its own. Also, I hope you get the message; however disjointed this piece might come off.

... And as always, I leave you with love and good vibes 💕